Relationship Advice: Creating Intimacy

Creating Intimacy is a challenge for a lot of couples. Intimacy is more than something sexual that occurs in the bedroom. Intimacy is the emotional connection with you and the one you love.

The biggest fundamental building block to creating intimacy in your relationship is communication. Unfortunately, most couples are afraid to communicate. Fear can hold a lot of couples back. Fear is the biggest reason most people wed the wrong person.

Intimacy is creating by sharing your positive and negative experiences with your lover. It is not a challenging or threatening conversation; it's intent should be to move the relationship forward.

You should not be telling your partner everything they are doing wrong. It will certainly put them on the defensive, and prompt them to fire back at you, and possibly even run away.

What you should do to increase the intimacy is to communicate your FEELINGS! This is something that too few people do, and it affects the growth of their relationship. One thing that can never be challenged is your feelings. That is what makes them YOURS!

When you express how something makes you feel, your partner is more willing to accept that they need to change. In most cases, their intent is not to hurt you, so presenting it this way will make them receive it and commit to change.

If you were to challenge them by telling them that what they did was wrong, they wouldn't see it, and would attack back. This is because most of the time their intentions are good. If they didn't mean to hurt you, they can't accept it.

Creating Intimacy starts with communicating with your partner. Be sure to communicate in a non-attacking fashion, and your message will be better received.

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Brandon Grittini is the author of the book "Cheating Spouses Revealed". He studies relationships and how to make them better. If you are interested in learning more, you can get more advice for relationships by visiting the homepage of his new website, AdvisingCouples.com.

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Dating Advice: Where Do You Sit?

I'm not sure where you sit when you go out on a date, but for me, I'm the kind of guy who sits across from my date. I like to look at her, engage in the conversation, and show her that I really care about what she has to say.

I know some people love sitting next to each other, but I just don't get it. That's why when I read this article about a little where do you sit dating advice, I had to send it your way.

It's a pretty good article, and does share one theory about why people do sit on the same side of the booth. I never thought of it either. Have you?

Even if you don't go check out the article, although you should, it's pretty funny, let me know where you like to sit. Am I the only one who thinks it's odd that people sit on the same side?

Now stop paying attention to me and grab some dating advice!

Connect And Commit

I just finished recording an interview with one of the internet's most well known Relationship Author/Expert, Amy Waterman.

Amy agreed to share some information from her soon to be released book, "Connect And Commit: The Definitive Path To A Strong, Committed Relationship". We'll post a link to that book as soon as it becomes available. In the meantime, if you'd like to hear the interview, there is only one way to do so.

Visit our website, Relationship Solutions, and register for the Free Newsletter. We'll give you a free gift just for doing so. Then, when the interview is released, we will email you details of how you can get it!

Since most people can't wait, I will share a little about what Amy and I discussed. Naturally, we talked a lot about commitment, since that is what her new book is about, but we covered some other topics as well.

First, we covered 6 stages of every relationship.
1. Fall In Love
2. Reality Check
3. Power Struggle
4. Re-Evaluation
5. Reconciliation
6. Acceptance

In the interview, we discuss in detail more about each stage, but it's important to note a few key things. What is most astonishing is that only 1 out of 20 couples, or 5%, actually reach the final stage, Acceptance. That may explain the high divorce rates! This Acceptance stage is where we actually feel the overused term, "Unconditional Love".

In relationships, we often turn to "blame", when things don't go our way. We can blame our lover for why we are unhappy, but in reality, you must first look within yourself, and find your own imperfections. When you can spot your own imperfections, you can truly begin to grow your relationship. You will find that you are not perfect, and neither is your partner. The question is, whether or not you are perfect for each other.

I don't want to give away the entire interview, so if you want to learn more, visit Relationship Solutions, and register for our newsletter! If you want to look at some of Amy's work that is available to you, check out her site on Attracting and Approaching The Opposite Sex!

Don't be afraid to share your stories, comments, or questions. Click the comment tab below and tell us what's on your mind. And keep checking the blog. We'll tell you a little more of what Amy shared with us. Don't miss her advice on common relationship mistakes people make, and what to do when your partner won't commit!

Relationship Advice: Where Do You Need?

Everyone seems to have relationship trouble at one point or another, and sometimes, you need a place to turn. Have you ever turned to the Internet to seek Relationship Advice?

It's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. In fact, it is one of the best places to turn. Not only do you get great advice from experts, but you are able to keep it confidential. The expert doesn't even know who you are, so you don't have to worry about it getting back.

What do people look for on the internet? Well, it varies depending on your situation. Some want to know where to find love, if the one they are with is the "right one", if they have a cheating spouse, or how to create a loving relationship.

The possibilities are as endless as the answers. So what do you look for when you turn to the internet for relationship advice? Let me know by leaving a comment. I'd love to hear what you have to say.

Relationship Advice Blog

I just started a new blog on Relationship Advice. I'm branching out and trying to cover topics such as dating, communication, trust, advice, divorce, marriage, sexuality, and even parenting.

Make sure you stop by and visit the blog at http://Relationship-Solutions.net/blog

Also, if you are a Relationship Expert, you need to stop by my blog and let me know if you're interested in a recording an interview. I'm putting together a teleseminar series to offer advice in different areas of relationships. Relationship Experts, please let me know if you are interested. Readers, let me know if you'd like to be notified when I release the series.

Stop by and leave a comment on the other blog and let me know what you think and what you want to read about.

To Your Relationship!

Brandon

Does My Spouse Still Love Me?

You have been married for quite a while now, and you feel like the interest from your spouse is fading. It's a natural feeling, and for good reason. Sometimes it drives you nuts and you can't help but wonder, "Does my spouse still love me?"

Courtship:

When we start dating someone, we do our best to try and impress them, making them believe we are the perfect person for them. If we really like this person we are trying to impress, we work harder and harder at trying to get them to like us. We constantly talk to them, learn who they are, what they like and what they dislike, becoming more and more familiar with them.

We care about what kind of day they had and how they are feeling. Then, after spending time courting this person, we feel like they are the right one, and think we can spend forever with them.

Upon this discovery, you propose entering into a marital relationship. But what happens when the courtship is over and the marriage begins?

Marriage:

Typically what I find is that people feel like marriage is the end all, and that they can just go through the motions to make it last. But NO marriage will last with that type of attitude. In fact, no relationship would. You would not be married to the person you are if you didn't work everyday and showing interest and proving that you care.

Your caring attitude and unconditional love is what drew you to your spouse in the first place. You likely could have found someone else to marry if you worked at another relationship as hard as you worked while you courted your spouse.

Why stop, then? People often get lazy when they get married. We see it in all apsects. Too often you stop dating your spouse, stop caring for them, stop wondering how their day was, what new things they learned today, and what new interests or dislikes they have.

If you fall into this category, you've probably gotten lazy at other things as well. You may not try as hard to maintain your appearance, you may not exercise, perform activities you otherwise used to, or even cared as much about yourself.

It Takes Work:

Marriage takes work to sustain. Keep paying attention to your spouse and yourself. Keep doing the things you did when you were courting your spouse. When you are unsure of what to do or how to act, by all means, ask your spouse. This is a great way to build communication with your spouse, ask them how they are doing, if they are happy, and what more you can do to make them even happier.

Your spouse will appreciate that you've paid attention to their needs and that you still care how they feel. With improved communication, you can keep learning more about your spouse grow together every day. You may find new things to do together, new places to go, and increased love and affection between the two of you.

Remember, marriage is not an end to anything. Keep working at your marriage and you will live a long and happy life with your spouse.

Must Read Article

I know I tend to focus my blogs on affair topics, but it's also important to focus on staying together. All too often, we are focused on the negative aspects of our lives and relationships, and we forget about the positives.

Sometimes, the power of the law of attraction kicks in, and even though something may not be really going on, we create a problem by focusing our attention on proving ourselves right.

My advice is to focus your attention on the good things you have going on in your relationship. Focus on dating your spouse or partner, as marriage is a life-long committment. Notice the word "comittment." It doesn't mean once you get married you stop working on making things the best you can be. It means work everyday to make you and your spouse happy.

There is a great artile that you must read. It shows how critical we can be at times, and how we can overlook the true meaning of what we are saying. You can check it out at http://hubpages.com/hub/Men-Are-Dogs

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