Relationship Mistakes: 5 Mistakes That Will Ruin Your Relationship

Relationship mistakes can really threaten your happiness. Most of the time, you don't even know you are making relationship mistakes. You think you're being romantic, special, and a warm, good lover.

But why do the same fights keep happening over and over again, then? Well, I guess everything isn't going exactly to plan.

Here is a little dating and realtionship advice to help you keep a happy relationship once you land the partner of your dreams. If you avoid these 5 common relationship mistakes, you're already better off than most of the poplulation.

These are not in any particlular order.

1. You Assume Too Much!--This is the biggest barrier to effective communication in your relationship. Don't assume you know everything about your partner, especially how they feel.

2. You Ask Lawyer's Questions--A lawyer's question is one that you already know the answer to. Lawyers are trained to ask questions this way. They are questions that build their case. Your relationship is not always about you being right. Ask detective questions, which get to the truth.

3. Rush Into Sex--You've probably done this one too! You can't rush into sex. You have to take things slow, and really get to know someone. This is hard, especially if you haven't been laid in a while, but if you have sex too soon, it becomes expected, and you may never establish true intimacy.

4. Treat Your Partner Like Crap--Would you treat your boss the way you treat your lover? Many times, we put our partner's down without even knowing it. We bully them, yell at them, and fail to respect them. These same things would get you fired at work, yet we expect our lover to stick around.

5. Settle For The Wrong Person--Why settle? You have to have respect for you first, and you can't let your fears allow you to settle for someone that doesn't make you happy. Learn to love being alone, and you will learn to be happy without the person who is ultimately destroying you.


There are many more relationship mistakes, but if you just learn these five, understand them, and avoid them, you will be well on your way to a happy relationship.

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Financial Affairs: Tips to Overcome the Tough Economy

So the recovery bill was shot down today...why? I don't know. It is a terrible move that will almost certainly push us into recession, and possible put us in a depression.

What happens now? Well, if they don't come up with another plan, your 401k, stocks, bonds, and all of your investments could be lost. Saving Wall St. saves Main St.

The Dow could push as low as 8,ooo, but let's hope not. More businesses will close, and unemployment could reach as high as 20-30 percent. Scary stuff!

What does it mean for your relationship?

Consider that some affairs are caused by financial insecurity and evaluate the status of your relationship.

Women especially seek affairs to financial reasons. They feel their spouse isn't providing for them, and fantasize about someone who can.

Recession Proof Your Marriage

In order to not be victimized by this recession, you have to put yourself in better financial situations, without compromising enjoyment and togetherness.
1. Stop spending on big ticket items...NOW! (TV's, Cars, furniture, etc.)
2. Improve your performance at work. If your company needs to slash it's work force, work hard so that it won't be you.
3. Find cheap alternatives to spending money when taking your spouse out. Instead of a trip out of town on the credit card or dinner and a movie, how about a day at the apple orchard and a good ole fashion fall hay ride.
4. Learn how to prevent an affair and how to catch your spouse cheating! Buy the book, "Cheating Spouses Revealed".

Don't let the economy affect your level of happiness in your marriage. Work at preventing the affair by focusing on how much you enjoy being with your spouse, and how much you appreciate everything they do. Let them know how much you love them, and you can get out of this tough time with your spouse by your side.

To Your Marriage!

Brandon

Does My Spouse Still Love Me?

You have been married for quite a while now, and you feel like the interest from your spouse is fading. It's a natural feeling, and for good reason. Sometimes it drives you nuts and you can't help but wonder, "Does my spouse still love me?"

Courtship:

When we start dating someone, we do our best to try and impress them, making them believe we are the perfect person for them. If we really like this person we are trying to impress, we work harder and harder at trying to get them to like us. We constantly talk to them, learn who they are, what they like and what they dislike, becoming more and more familiar with them.

We care about what kind of day they had and how they are feeling. Then, after spending time courting this person, we feel like they are the right one, and think we can spend forever with them.

Upon this discovery, you propose entering into a marital relationship. But what happens when the courtship is over and the marriage begins?

Marriage:

Typically what I find is that people feel like marriage is the end all, and that they can just go through the motions to make it last. But NO marriage will last with that type of attitude. In fact, no relationship would. You would not be married to the person you are if you didn't work everyday and showing interest and proving that you care.

Your caring attitude and unconditional love is what drew you to your spouse in the first place. You likely could have found someone else to marry if you worked at another relationship as hard as you worked while you courted your spouse.

Why stop, then? People often get lazy when they get married. We see it in all apsects. Too often you stop dating your spouse, stop caring for them, stop wondering how their day was, what new things they learned today, and what new interests or dislikes they have.

If you fall into this category, you've probably gotten lazy at other things as well. You may not try as hard to maintain your appearance, you may not exercise, perform activities you otherwise used to, or even cared as much about yourself.

It Takes Work:

Marriage takes work to sustain. Keep paying attention to your spouse and yourself. Keep doing the things you did when you were courting your spouse. When you are unsure of what to do or how to act, by all means, ask your spouse. This is a great way to build communication with your spouse, ask them how they are doing, if they are happy, and what more you can do to make them even happier.

Your spouse will appreciate that you've paid attention to their needs and that you still care how they feel. With improved communication, you can keep learning more about your spouse grow together every day. You may find new things to do together, new places to go, and increased love and affection between the two of you.

Remember, marriage is not an end to anything. Keep working at your marriage and you will live a long and happy life with your spouse.