Financial Affairs: Tips to Overcome the Tough Economy

So the recovery bill was shot down today...why? I don't know. It is a terrible move that will almost certainly push us into recession, and possible put us in a depression.

What happens now? Well, if they don't come up with another plan, your 401k, stocks, bonds, and all of your investments could be lost. Saving Wall St. saves Main St.

The Dow could push as low as 8,ooo, but let's hope not. More businesses will close, and unemployment could reach as high as 20-30 percent. Scary stuff!

What does it mean for your relationship?

Consider that some affairs are caused by financial insecurity and evaluate the status of your relationship.

Women especially seek affairs to financial reasons. They feel their spouse isn't providing for them, and fantasize about someone who can.

Recession Proof Your Marriage

In order to not be victimized by this recession, you have to put yourself in better financial situations, without compromising enjoyment and togetherness.
1. Stop spending on big ticket items...NOW! (TV's, Cars, furniture, etc.)
2. Improve your performance at work. If your company needs to slash it's work force, work hard so that it won't be you.
3. Find cheap alternatives to spending money when taking your spouse out. Instead of a trip out of town on the credit card or dinner and a movie, how about a day at the apple orchard and a good ole fashion fall hay ride.
4. Learn how to prevent an affair and how to catch your spouse cheating! Buy the book, "Cheating Spouses Revealed".

Don't let the economy affect your level of happiness in your marriage. Work at preventing the affair by focusing on how much you enjoy being with your spouse, and how much you appreciate everything they do. Let them know how much you love them, and you can get out of this tough time with your spouse by your side.

To Your Marriage!

Brandon

Secret Affairs: Sex After Infidelity

Secret Affairs. They Suck!! But if you want to recover and share a life with your partner, there is a huge hurdle...Sex After Infidelity!

It's a big question for a lot of people, and it's important to share sexual love with your spouse to find total happiness. But it's tough because a major trust has been violated.

In order to have sex after infidelity you have to re-establish trust in the relationship. You have to communicate your feelings and establish what is really preventing you from sharing yourself with your partner again.

If you were the cheater, you have to be open and understand that your partner has been hurt, and it is up to you to prove your trust. If you were the victim, you need to understand that if you want the relationship to continue, you will eventually have to forgive your partner.

I've written an article that you can view by clicking here.

The article talks about having sex after infidelity. Enjoy!

To Your Relationship!

Brandon

Follow Through With All You Do

Yesterday I blogged about setting your 100 day goals. I think goals are an important aspect of life. How do you achieve anything if you don't have a goal to shoot for?

I don't want anyone to think that I'm not setting goals of my own here. I do practice what I preach. Today, I committed myself to that New Year Resolution for the last 100 days, and I'm determined to live a healthier life down the stretch of 2008.

I've committed to a plan to lose weight. Not a diet, an intense, monitored regiment, complete with support from medical staff. Now, I'm not incredibly overweight, but I would feel a lot better if I lost about 20 pounds.

So why do I need a such a structured system with a support group? Because support groups keep you on track to achieving your goals. When you have someone pushing you, and even working toward the same goals as you, you are better equipped to achieve success.

So when you are setting your relationship goals, find it in you and your partner to develop a plan to achieve your goals, and find a support group to share your challenges and successes!

In the future, I will offer a private community for you to join, but in the mean time, log into our squidoo page and share your thoughts and questions.

You can log into our squidoo page at:

http://www.squidoo.com/groups/surviveanaffair

You can create an alias for your profile if you wan to remain anonymous. Share your thoughts!!

I'm also working on a new project right now to help you achieve ultimate happiness. For that project, I'm conducting case studies and surveys to help with research. If you'd like to complete a survey, join our FREE newsletter to be notified!

Register for the FREE Newsletter here:

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If you can't wait until our next product is released, and you need instant help, pick up a copy of our E-book, "Cheating Spouses Revealed".

You can get your copy by clicking the following link:

http://cheatingspousesrevealed.com/choice.html

Remember, it's not what happens to you; it's how you handle it that will determine whether you are miserable or happy!

To Your Marriage!

Brandon

100 Day Resolution

Today is a HUGE day for me. Each year, millions of people put together a new year's resolution, in which they set out to change certain behaviors in their life. For most people, this resolution has failed by February.

If you are one of those people, then you can start up a new resolution right now. The 100 day resolution. You see, today is September 22. That means their are 100 days left in the year, the perfect chance for you to finish strong and make the changes you need to make in your life and in your relationship.

If you need relationship help and are serious about being happy, then you have to click here!

100 days is plenty of time to take the next step to relationship bliss. Don't wait any longer. Finish the year on a happy note, and put your plans in action.

If you have maintained your resolution, this is also a great check point. I like to evaluate my progress toward my resolution at this time. I grade myself and see how I am doing toward my goal.

I have fallen off pace on some areas, but I've been able to help so many people that I have to say so far, I've been successful. My ebook has been released and I'm creating a new product as we speak, which aims to help build a bond in your relationship and connect with your partner like you haven't done in years!

I can't tell you too much about the new product yet, but you will learn more in the next couple of months. You can, however, buy the ebook now, by clicking the following link.

http://cheatingspousesrevealed.com/choice.html

100 days is a long time, and a great point to start establishing finishing goals for 2008! If finding happiness in your relationship is in your goals, I am recommending a great source for help below.







Good luck in your relationship success!

Brandon

Oprah: The Truth About Cheating

Last week, Oprah had relationship expert M. Gary Neuman on her show, and there has been a lot of buzz created because of it. Neuman is the author of the book The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It and he took a lot of slack for some of what he had to say.

I thought his book was great, and I highly suggest that you grab a copy. If you watched the show, you know that he was giving it away for FREE for 2 days, but that time has long since passed.

Unfortunately, now the only way to grab a copy of the book is to pay for it. You can click below to buy a copy for yourself.



A lot of the controversy that surrounded the show was how different people interpreted what Neuman was saying. See, Neuman pointed out that in his research, he found that men didn't always cheat for sex, but rather because they were not feeling emotionally connected at home.

A lot of women felt that he was making excuses for men cheating, and giving them an out, all the while placing blame on women for their husband's affair.

I do not think this was the case at all. Rather, I think Neuman was pointing out that men are not just about sex, and that they do have certain emotional needs that need to be tended to. Similar to women, men need to feel an appreciation from their spouse, and a sense of value and importance.

In his study, which encompassed over 25,000 men, men really needed to feel important. Men are built with a desire to compete, and part of that is winning. It's important for a man to feel like a winner. At a minimum, he at least needs to be in the game.

Do you ever notice how passionate men get about sports? They get crazy involved, like they have some sort of stake in the outcome. But what about when the game is a blowout, or they feel there isn't enough time to come back? The bubble kind of bursts, and the room gets a little quiet. They lose interest in the game because they (their team) has lost or are out of it.

"The Truth About Cheating" is an excellent book that covers a lot of great topics to help prevent affairs, catch affairs, and recover from affairs. It's a perfect compliment to "Cheating Spouses Revealed". You can pick up "The Truth About Cheating" by clicking below.



You can also grab your copy of "Cheating Spouses Revealed" by clicking here!

Breach of Trust: Prevent the Affair

At what point is the right time to seek help when you think your spouse is cheating? The answer, quite simply, is immediately. That's right, the moment you start feeling insecure about yourself or your relationship, it's time to seek help.

Whether your partner is having an affair or not, the fact that you are having these feelings is cause enough for concern. The truth is, even if your spouse isn't having an affair, there are some deep problems in your relationship that you need to control before they do lead to an affair.

If you think your partner is cheating, you probably aren't meeting each other's needs. And contrary to what many people believe, men also crave emotional attention! Men also are born competitors, so they also need to have a sense of winning.

This is not to say that women should lay down and do as their man says, but bait him and make him feel a sense of pride and importance in your life.

Men, even more critical for you is to make your spouse feel valued in the relationship. Women, even more than men, crave affection and conversation. Men need to learn to show compassion and care in a more sensitive manner.

I know you hear all the time about how you have to communicate better, and from me, you will often hear that the easiest way to communicate better is to start out by asking each other what they need and expect out of the relationship.

When you begin to understand what your spouse or partner expects from you and the relationship, you can focus on making their expectations a reality. Share with each other what you want and need, what you like and dislike. Don't be afraid to share your feelings. Keeping them bottled up will destroy you, your partner, and your relationship.

Staying involved with each other and satisfying each other are great ways to help prevent an affair. You should also find similar interests and activities to share with your spouse. Again, this is a great way to communicate. Asking your spouse what they like and matching them to your likes shows that you care. It will also give you a chance to spend some quality time together that you both will enjoy.

Dating your spouse is crucial. You dated throughout the courtship, but when people marry, they often stop dating and their marriage grows as stale as 3 day old popcorn. I believe that it is critical that you set aside some time for just the 2 of you. Even if you have kids, find a sitter and take your partner out. Make them feel special. Rekindle those emotions from prior to being married.

Another suggestion is to constantly flirt with your partner. Flirting can bring out some intense feelings. Flirting can arouse the mind and body, and build anticipation for what could happen next. It also shows your spouse that you still love them, want to be with them, and are happy that you are together.

These are just a few tips that I couldn't resist sharing with you today. If you would like to learn more on how to prevent an affair and learn other great ways to build a trusting and exciting foundation for your relationship, subscribe to our FREE Newsletter.

To Your Relationship!

Brandon

Unfaithful Spouse: Simple Reasons Cheaters Cheat

It happens time and time again. You feel like your spouse isn't around, and that they are no longer their for you. Depression and anger take over, and you don't know what is happening. All people keep telling you is that you have to leave, or you need to communicate better.

It's always easy to diagnose a problem, but the real impact is finding a solution. That's what we are all about.

If you are having doubts about your partner, or think you have an unfaithful spouse, you are going to want to read the article that I just had published on Love Detour.

I give some great tips on why people cheat, and help provide some solutions to prevent cheating. If you are already having these feelings, something is wrong with your relationship and it's time to get help.

Make sure you get the help you need. If you can't wait for the answers, and need to know if your spouse is cheating, then you can go to my website and buy my book now.

You can also sign up for my free newsletter by clicking here.

The Secret:Affairs and Selfishness

I've been getting a lot of emails relating to selfishness and the turmoil that it can cause. I made a little video to help understand selfishness and how it can be good.

Watch the Video

Love Detour: Follow Me There

As summer comes to its unofficial close, it's time to move back to reality. If you were having relationship problems before, you might have made concessions during the summer months, but now that reality is upon us, the intensity of your struggles moves onward.

It's time to dedicate yourself to understanding what the underlying problems are in your relationship, and how to identify solutions to those problems. Better yet, you come up with the problems, and I'll help with the solutions!

Allow yourself some reflection time to really identify what problems you are having and what you are really expecting out of your relationship. Compare your expectations to your reality and analyze what you find. Is your partner meeting your expectations?

Chances are, the answer is no. But the next question becomes "Why"? It is quite possible, and very probable, that they don't know what you expect of them. How can they? Have you told them?

Complasency can take over a relationship after the courtship, and we tend to forget what we knew about our partner, and failed to evolve with them.

You have to update each other on what your likes and dislikes are, what your goals are, and what you expect from your partner and your relationship. Spending some time together and writing these down, and then discussing them is a great way to promote meaningful conversation.

Imporving your communication can help turn your relationship around. You have to work at understanding each other to make your relationship grow.

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Now, I learned of this site when they invited me to be an expert on the advice side of the site. I encourage you to join the FREE community and follow my articles and comments while you're their.

The site is Love Detour, and I hope you'll join me and thousands of others just like us. It is unique in that it is a member site, but its free and while you have access to other members's advice and opinions, there is also an "Expert" division which you can also utilize for the obtaining the answers and support you need. Check them out at www.lovedetour.com