Relationship Advice: Creating Intimacy

Creating Intimacy is a challenge for a lot of couples. Intimacy is more than something sexual that occurs in the bedroom. Intimacy is the emotional connection with you and the one you love.

The biggest fundamental building block to creating intimacy in your relationship is communication. Unfortunately, most couples are afraid to communicate. Fear can hold a lot of couples back. Fear is the biggest reason most people wed the wrong person.

Intimacy is creating by sharing your positive and negative experiences with your lover. It is not a challenging or threatening conversation; it's intent should be to move the relationship forward.

You should not be telling your partner everything they are doing wrong. It will certainly put them on the defensive, and prompt them to fire back at you, and possibly even run away.

What you should do to increase the intimacy is to communicate your FEELINGS! This is something that too few people do, and it affects the growth of their relationship. One thing that can never be challenged is your feelings. That is what makes them YOURS!

When you express how something makes you feel, your partner is more willing to accept that they need to change. In most cases, their intent is not to hurt you, so presenting it this way will make them receive it and commit to change.

If you were to challenge them by telling them that what they did was wrong, they wouldn't see it, and would attack back. This is because most of the time their intentions are good. If they didn't mean to hurt you, they can't accept it.

Creating Intimacy starts with communicating with your partner. Be sure to communicate in a non-attacking fashion, and your message will be better received.

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Brandon Grittini is the author of the book "Cheating Spouses Revealed". He studies relationships and how to make them better. If you are interested in learning more, you can get more advice for relationships by visiting the homepage of his new website, AdvisingCouples.com.

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Relationship Mistakes: 5 Mistakes That Will Ruin Your Relationship

Relationship mistakes can really threaten your happiness. Most of the time, you don't even know you are making relationship mistakes. You think you're being romantic, special, and a warm, good lover.

But why do the same fights keep happening over and over again, then? Well, I guess everything isn't going exactly to plan.

Here is a little dating and realtionship advice to help you keep a happy relationship once you land the partner of your dreams. If you avoid these 5 common relationship mistakes, you're already better off than most of the poplulation.

These are not in any particlular order.

1. You Assume Too Much!--This is the biggest barrier to effective communication in your relationship. Don't assume you know everything about your partner, especially how they feel.

2. You Ask Lawyer's Questions--A lawyer's question is one that you already know the answer to. Lawyers are trained to ask questions this way. They are questions that build their case. Your relationship is not always about you being right. Ask detective questions, which get to the truth.

3. Rush Into Sex--You've probably done this one too! You can't rush into sex. You have to take things slow, and really get to know someone. This is hard, especially if you haven't been laid in a while, but if you have sex too soon, it becomes expected, and you may never establish true intimacy.

4. Treat Your Partner Like Crap--Would you treat your boss the way you treat your lover? Many times, we put our partner's down without even knowing it. We bully them, yell at them, and fail to respect them. These same things would get you fired at work, yet we expect our lover to stick around.

5. Settle For The Wrong Person--Why settle? You have to have respect for you first, and you can't let your fears allow you to settle for someone that doesn't make you happy. Learn to love being alone, and you will learn to be happy without the person who is ultimately destroying you.


There are many more relationship mistakes, but if you just learn these five, understand them, and avoid them, you will be well on your way to a happy relationship.

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Who Hates Valentines Day?

Ah, another Valentines Day. And who knows what it really is, besides a day that you are told you should really love the one you're with, and if you're alone, a day to feel like a complete loser because you don't have someone to share it with.

If you're single, it really sucks! I remember when people would ask what I was doing on Valentines day. What are you supposed to say? It's like you're reminded that you don't have anyone, and you feel more alone. You also can't go hang out with any of your friends who have someone, because they are "celebrating" Valentines day.

And how many people complain about it. Men that they have to buy stuff for their lady, and women because it's really a false sense of love they get from their man. Why can't he buy you flowers on random days? Doesn't it mean less if he's told to do it?

Roses. More and more, even women hate roses. Why? Because it's so cliche! They want men to be a little more creative, so they feel a little more special.

Is Valentine's day a Hallmark holiday? Of course it is. If you bought a card, flowers, candy, or jewelry just because of what day it is, Hallmark won.

So what's your story? What are your Valentine's day thoughts? Do you love it? Hate it? I want to hear your reasons why. Just click on the comment tab below and let me know what you think. And if you're looking for relationship advice, there is a site that can help.

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Does My Spouse Still Love Me?

You have been married for quite a while now, and you feel like the interest from your spouse is fading. It's a natural feeling, and for good reason. Sometimes it drives you nuts and you can't help but wonder, "Does my spouse still love me?"

Courtship:

When we start dating someone, we do our best to try and impress them, making them believe we are the perfect person for them. If we really like this person we are trying to impress, we work harder and harder at trying to get them to like us. We constantly talk to them, learn who they are, what they like and what they dislike, becoming more and more familiar with them.

We care about what kind of day they had and how they are feeling. Then, after spending time courting this person, we feel like they are the right one, and think we can spend forever with them.

Upon this discovery, you propose entering into a marital relationship. But what happens when the courtship is over and the marriage begins?

Marriage:

Typically what I find is that people feel like marriage is the end all, and that they can just go through the motions to make it last. But NO marriage will last with that type of attitude. In fact, no relationship would. You would not be married to the person you are if you didn't work everyday and showing interest and proving that you care.

Your caring attitude and unconditional love is what drew you to your spouse in the first place. You likely could have found someone else to marry if you worked at another relationship as hard as you worked while you courted your spouse.

Why stop, then? People often get lazy when they get married. We see it in all apsects. Too often you stop dating your spouse, stop caring for them, stop wondering how their day was, what new things they learned today, and what new interests or dislikes they have.

If you fall into this category, you've probably gotten lazy at other things as well. You may not try as hard to maintain your appearance, you may not exercise, perform activities you otherwise used to, or even cared as much about yourself.

It Takes Work:

Marriage takes work to sustain. Keep paying attention to your spouse and yourself. Keep doing the things you did when you were courting your spouse. When you are unsure of what to do or how to act, by all means, ask your spouse. This is a great way to build communication with your spouse, ask them how they are doing, if they are happy, and what more you can do to make them even happier.

Your spouse will appreciate that you've paid attention to their needs and that you still care how they feel. With improved communication, you can keep learning more about your spouse grow together every day. You may find new things to do together, new places to go, and increased love and affection between the two of you.

Remember, marriage is not an end to anything. Keep working at your marriage and you will live a long and happy life with your spouse.

Must Read Article

I know I tend to focus my blogs on affair topics, but it's also important to focus on staying together. All too often, we are focused on the negative aspects of our lives and relationships, and we forget about the positives.

Sometimes, the power of the law of attraction kicks in, and even though something may not be really going on, we create a problem by focusing our attention on proving ourselves right.

My advice is to focus your attention on the good things you have going on in your relationship. Focus on dating your spouse or partner, as marriage is a life-long committment. Notice the word "comittment." It doesn't mean once you get married you stop working on making things the best you can be. It means work everyday to make you and your spouse happy.

There is a great artile that you must read. It shows how critical we can be at times, and how we can overlook the true meaning of what we are saying. You can check it out at http://hubpages.com/hub/Men-Are-Dogs

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