At what point is the right time to seek help when you think your spouse is cheating? The answer, quite simply, is immediately. That's right, the moment you start feeling insecure about yourself or your relationship, it's time to seek help.
Whether your partner is having an affair or not, the fact that you are having these feelings is cause enough for concern. The truth is, even if your spouse isn't having an affair, there are some deep problems in your relationship that you need to control before they do lead to an affair.
If you think your partner is cheating, you probably aren't meeting each other's needs. And contrary to what many people believe, men also crave emotional attention! Men also are born competitors, so they also need to have a sense of winning.
This is not to say that women should lay down and do as their man says, but bait him and make him feel a sense of pride and importance in your life.
Men, even more critical for you is to make your spouse feel valued in the relationship. Women, even more than men, crave affection and conversation. Men need to learn to show compassion and care in a more sensitive manner.
I know you hear all the time about how you have to communicate better, and from me, you will often hear that the easiest way to communicate better is to start out by asking each other what they need and expect out of the relationship.
When you begin to understand what your spouse or partner expects from you and the relationship, you can focus on making their expectations a reality. Share with each other what you want and need, what you like and dislike. Don't be afraid to share your feelings. Keeping them bottled up will destroy you, your partner, and your relationship.
Staying involved with each other and satisfying each other are great ways to help prevent an affair. You should also find similar interests and activities to share with your spouse. Again, this is a great way to communicate. Asking your spouse what they like and matching them to your likes shows that you care. It will also give you a chance to spend some quality time together that you both will enjoy.
Dating your spouse is crucial. You dated throughout the courtship, but when people marry, they often stop dating and their marriage grows as stale as 3 day old popcorn. I believe that it is critical that you set aside some time for just the 2 of you. Even if you have kids, find a sitter and take your partner out. Make them feel special. Rekindle those emotions from prior to being married.
Another suggestion is to constantly flirt with your partner. Flirting can bring out some intense feelings. Flirting can arouse the mind and body, and build anticipation for what could happen next. It also shows your spouse that you still love them, want to be with them, and are happy that you are together.
These are just a few tips that I couldn't resist sharing with you today. If you would like to learn more on how to prevent an affair and learn other great ways to build a trusting and exciting foundation for your relationship, subscribe to our FREE Newsletter.
To Your Relationship!
Brandon
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